She is you. The woman in the gown staring back at you is you. One in the same. You're the bride.
Relief, calm, clarity.
Tears. Heart pounding. Dull voices of joy circumvent the room as if they're miles away.
You have it on. You turn around and stare at your reflection.
You see her on-line. You pin your favorites. You admire. You gush. You dream...
He asks. You say yes! The ring slides on your finger.
When you accept the proposal you can certainly call yourself the bride. However, the moment you realize you are a bride is another story. When does it hit you? I'd like to say it's that brief space in time you choose your gown!
I've worked with many brides over the years who do act, look, and speak the part of bride upon our meeting. They believe when they walk in the boutique they are the bride. Why wouldn't they? That is their label. That is the generic name vendors in the wedding industry use: "my bride...".
There is nothing wrong with stepping into that role. You must, but have you had your moment? Have you reconciled the person wearing the wedding gown in the mirror is really you? Until that moment occurs, you are the bride in name only.
Acceptance and elation intertwined is a clear indicator you found your gown! Acceptance because you know in your heart you feel incredible, beautiful and that you, yes, you are going to be a bride who confidently walks down the aisle in that stupendous frock! Elation is what comes before, during and after the gown serves its purpose on your wedding day.
In the grand length of a lifetime a woman can only call herself a bride for a relatively short time. Enjoy it in all its facets, but especially the day it becomes clear you truly are the beautiful, bride.
